True Worth Isn’t Determined By Material Success And Social Status:
- Stacey Sellars
- Feb 24
- 4 min read
I’ve spent most of my life, unconsciously, trying to prove that I’m worthy through “making” it; both financially and societally.
For as long as I can remember I’ve had this inner drive to hustle and bustle – always looking for the next big thing that's going to somehow make me happy. I thought this drive and feeling of being unsatisfied was because I was a person who wanted a life of purpose, a purpose that involved helping people. In what way, I could never seem to really settle on. I watched my parents stay in the same mundane job for more than thirty years, and I was determined that was not going to be my life.
I thought that was why I constantly had to move onto new and exciting ventures, but something really strange and profound has happened to me over the last couple of weeks. I took one single dose of a homeopathic remedy, did a breathwork session, and everything within me quite literally changed overnight.
I’ve gone from this uncontrollable compulsion to always chase this illustrious prize of happiness through success, to someone who just wants to stop, smell the roses, and enjoy what earth has to offer. Along with that feeling, I’ve also had some pretty deep insights into my behaviour, and what that all means for my future.
I realised that I’ve spent my life feeling like I have to prove myself to everyone in order to feel worthy as a person. It’s something that I can actually see amongst most people within society. Especially on social media. I can’t help but question if any content creator is actually content within themselves, or are they too, trying to prove their worth through material success, social status, and “making” it?
As a spiritual person, I’ve always felt like I had some big soul mission to achieve on earth – a mission that somehow involved helping (save) people. During the breathwork session, I had this realisation that my only mission on earth was to save myself. To clear the energetic density that earth inflicts upon people, especially through trauma healing and deep inner work. This voice in my head said, “You have completed your earthly mission. It’s over. You now have the choice to either leave earth (die), or you can stay and enjoy the fruits of your labour (experience what heaven on earth feels like).”
I, of course, said I want to experience the fruits of my labour. I’ve worked bloody hard to get to this point, after all. After the breathwork session ended I left that building with this newfound feeling of total and utter contentment deep within my soul. A strange feeling that I can honestly say that I have never experienced before. I walked out of there knowing that I have absolutely nothing left to prove. I’ve completed what I came to earth to do, and now all I want is to just slow down and enjoy what life has to offer. It is not my job to save anyone. Only they can do that for themselves, as I had to...
I had this pretty big business opportunity laid out before me, and my TikTok and social media platforms were starting to take off, but I’ve decided to turn the business offer down and pull right away from social media. Why? Because the business offer would require a huge amount of my time and energy, and it would require me to spend even more time building an online presence.
Not having this need for external validation or to prove myself to everyone now has allowed me to get really honest with myself about what it is that I truly enjoy doing, and social media is not one of them. In fact, I absolutely detest making videos most days, and I truly dislike how dysregulated all the nasty comments make my nervous system feel. I don’t like how I’ve lost connection with the actual people in my life because I’m too busy trying to impress or defend myself with strangers on the internet.
These past twelve months I’ve had absolutely no time to do all the things I love, like cooking beautiful meals, exploring antique shops, travelling, and having fun catch-up dinners with my friends. When I reflect, I’ve actually achieved an awful lot in my forty-one years of life, and now I just want to enjoy the simple things that make me feel happy.
I already have a financially successful cleaning business that affords me the freedom to live a semi-retired life, and I’ve been so caught up in trying to prove myself that I hadn’t stopped to appreciate the beautiful lifestyle that business already brings me. So, I’m walking away from all the hustle culture and constant striving for external success. I’m going to put on some more staff and a manager for the cleaning business so that I can truly take a step back to just live and enjoy this newfound freedom and inner peace. And, I will continue to do my homeopathy because that also brings me joy and supports my ascension journey. Everything else is going.
It might sound crazy to those who are still caught on the hamster wheel of chasing success, social status, and outside validation, but to those who have found that self-worth and inner acceptance, I know you’ll understand just where I’m coming from. I’ll still be writing this blog because it is something I enjoy, but you just won’t see me on social media as much as you’re used to. I’ll post when I feel I want to, not because I feel I have to.
To those who think I’m crazy, I ask you this: “Do you feel truly happy and content inside?” If the answer is no, then I’d say you are still searching for external validation to try and justify your worth. Perhaps this is your invitation to start exploring what is missing on the inside, because take it from me, true happiness, authentic success, and lasting contentment are never going to come from external sources. That is something that can only come from deep within your soul.
I am free, I am me, and now I’m going to just let that be!
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